This past weekend I had an amazing opportunity to do something completely out of my comfort zone, give free hugs to random people in the heart of the Magnificent Mile on Michigan Avenue. A friend of mine turned me on to the idea; although, hesitant at first I accept. I accepted because I want to say yes to growth and no to safety or ‘the safe zone’.We always have a choice between safety and growth. Self-actualization is the process of making every decision into a chance for growth. When we choose safety, its often done out of fear causing us to regress. Choosing growth allows for us to welcome new experiences into our life. At any given opportunity, choose growth and fearlessness so your authentic self can be expressed. That is exactly what happened to me. At first I was shy, awkward and even thought to myself: what the heck did I get myself into. However after the first hug, I felt a shift in my energy. I let go of any inhibitions, any judgement and welcomed compassion and love to be the channel through which I take on this opportunity to connect with complete strangers on a heart to heart; soul to soul level. I began to see people past their form identifiable bodies and really see them for that beautiful glowing light of abundant energy within. Only when you can allow space into your heart to see others for who they are, can you really begin to understand that all people really want is to be loved and feel connected. It was the most exhilarating, uplifting and heart opening experience I’ve ever had. If you are in the Chicago area and would like join in on the next Free Hugs event email me and I will send you the link!
Lift yourself by lifting others; then you will realize the true joy in being alive!
You are driving down the Pacific West Highway, feeling the wind in your hair and listening to your favorite tunes all while admiring the beautiful blue ocean. Life is good; you feel content with not a care in the world. Then, all of the sudden you get a flat tire and your perfect scenario turns into a not so perfect hot mess, with you having to figure out how to fix a flat tire.
Scenarios like these are a common occurrence in this beautiful existence called life. The minute we feel like things are going good, all of the sudden the exact opposite happens and we find ourself down in the dumps; caught up in a storm. How do we recover? How do we overcome it? How do we move beyond what we are going through so we can feel better and be ourself again?
Shift the focus from what has gone wrong to what has gone right. Every situation, opportunity or event comes bearing lessons to learn, something to grow from. When you can stop looking at it as an attack on you; you stop trying to make it your story and give it life by drowning yourself with compulsive thoughts that are far from helping you. Your thoughts create a spiral affect and you begin to get caught up in very powerful emotions that start to eat you from the inside out. In moments like these its so crucial to bring it back to the breathe, focusing on your inhalation and exhalation, but also surrendering to what the moment holds for you. Embrace it. Accept it. Sit with it. Let it be. Don’t shun it. Don’t shun yourself nor beat yourself up. Open up your heart to send love and compassion to those parts of you that strongly feel troubled; they need it now. Only with love and compassion towards yourself can you begin true healing and open up a doorway to understanding what your feelings are trying to tell you. Once you can accept that your feelings always work for you; not against you, you will allow room for new a perspective to enter.Choosing to see something beyond its actuality; is choosing to see it down to its barebones, because the obvious isn’t always subtle or easily identifiable. It may take some time to pin point where the tension lies, but remember to uncover anything you have to be willingly go deeper, go inward.
By taking the initial responsibility to embrace the moment as it is; you can welcome space into your being to move forward from a place of calm and peace. Remember its not about how well you can avoid the storm, but how well you can deal with it.
Many times we are too afraid to step out, let the world hear our voice, share what we have to offer all because of this little nonsense voice inside our heads that somehow talks us into believing that we are not good enough, and perhaps that we may never be enough. Stop right here, because you know what, as you are…you are enough. Think about it, you are a walking, talking, breathing miracle…living in paradise, you just have to awaken yourself to it, and be willing to realize it. If you have dreams, passions, goals or aspirations…follow through. It doesn’t matter if you think its not “original” or its not good enough, because it is. We all have our own contribution and services to give to the world, its coming from you, that in itself is unique.
Anything you have a burning desire to do, do it and don’t go down the what if highway. Its not about comparison or competition that will get you far, but its about being who you are and realizing that you have a gift to offer. You are you, and you cannot be and will not be someone else.
It’s that time of the year again where everyone is thinking what their New Year Resolutions will be. This year, I am doing something different. For the year 2014, I am choosing to take a conscious approach rather than following a goal-oriented, results based method. Why? Because the ‘typical’ way of making a New Year Resolution is too heavily focused on the end result, rather than the process. In 2014 for me, its all about the process, the journey and most of all the feelings. Therefore, inspired by Danielle LaPorte and her Core Desire Feelings mapping, I have chosen to focus on my core desire feelings for 2014. I chose 5 core desire feelings:
1. Joy 2. Abundance 3. Synergy 4. Inspired 5. Connection
These are the top 5 feelings I am/want to feel in 2014; and the activities I choose, the way I live and how I approach my life is based on these feelings. Its not about changing yourself to become a better version of yourself, its about BEING yourself and focusing on what that means to you. Choose to just BE and forget about becoming. When you focus on your being, you can express it fully as well as choose how you want to feel at all times. So this year, I invite you to ditch making New Year Resolutions and instead focus on your core desire feelings. What makes you come alive, what make you feel connected with your inner self, what is joy for you? Ask yourself a few questions and get mapping on your desired feelings!
I’ve also made a video about this topic, which you can watch here.
Share below what your core desire feelings for 2014 are. Happy Monday!
“It’s not what we have but what we enjoy that constitutes our abundance.” – Epicurus
Gratitude plays a very important role in my life. Its the one thing that I begin and end my day with, its the one thing that has changed my life in seconds and its the one that allows me to expand my awareness a little every single day. Harboring the attitude of gratitude is the way I choose to live my life! I recently made a video about the importance of having an attitude of gratitude and share a personal story, you watch it here.
On my YouTube, I am hosting a giveaway to give thanks, and to give something to the seekers who are choosing to better their life and expand their consciousness. You can watch the video and enter the giveaway, here.
Thank you for taking the time to read my blog, but most of all seeking out knowledge!
In this video I share a personal story of a “slip up”, what I learned and how to get back on track. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is get started and to begin again when we slip up. It’s all a matter of understanding what message your slip up has for you, as well as how you choose to identify with it.
Please share below, how you’ve overcome your own slip ups. If you found this video helpful, give me a tweet at @DEARKAJAL and/or share it with a friend. I would appreciate that 🙂
Making the most of your day when you are in a blaaaah state of mind.
You know its just one of those day when you feel like you never really got up. Everything is just a drag, it all seems so time consuming and you want to lay around all day. You’re left with two options, am I going to make this day or will this day make me? I’ve experienced both sides of the same coin and have decided that I feel better when I make the day. But there is a problem, I don’t feel like doing sh*t. All I want to do is eat a bag of cookies, watch endless hours of Netflix, stay in pajamas and call it a day. However, if I do that I always end up not feeling true to myself. So therefore, the matter of the fact is, how can I take my blaaaah day and make into at least an okay day, if not a great day?
Shower (preferably cold if you can) as soon as you get up
Make yourself a healthy and nutritious breakfast so you won’t ravenously stuff your face later. For example: a green smoothie, oatmeal with bananas, chia seed pudding, egg omelette with your favorite vegetables or even some pancakes
Wear something you feel amazing and beautiful in. Dress to impress (impress yourself)!
Grab your favorite latte or tea from a coffee shop you love, stick around for a bit to people watch
Write yourself a Here is what I know letter, see an example (here)
Read some inspiring, motivating and empowering quotes
Start reading that book you’ve kept eyeing to read, but never got around to it
Walk barefoot on the grass, even lay a blanket down and go clouding gazing or clouding dissolving, watch this video (here)
Talk to a friend on the phone or in person, catch up
Give yourself 5 compliments
Workout, its an instant mood booster
Write, whatever you’re feeling, get it out on paper. Check this out (here)
Explore a new area of your town, city. Take pictures with your iPhone to document your experience
Clean, tidy up your room, a clean environment means a clear mind
Above all be kind to yourself, cherish yourself and don’t hate on yourself for having a blaaaaah day, it happens and its okay
Share below what things you do to turn your blaaaah day around?