Daily Prompt: Heroic

#1

I can’t remember much from when I was five, just like how I can’t really remember the early years of my life. My memory lacks in knowing anything to do with that point in time, it may have been to do with the environment I was in. See I was born in a little town in India where people didn’t really have hero’s, idol’s or even aspirations. Life was just about staying afloat, having enough food to put in your belly and making sure you had a roof over your head. I suppose the only people in my life who come anywhere close to being my hero, would be my parents. Although I would not define them as my hero; they were heroic in a way that I think is admirable. As an early 20 something year old with a young child is not necessarily the easiest thing to handle when you are still trying to make sense of your own life, and here you are left with making sense of your life, but also dealing with any repercussions your decisions would have on a senseless young child who you are responsible for. While my parents tried to make some sense of their lives, I was sent off to live with relatives. These relatives were nice, but they too hadn’t a clue about bringing up a child. I was left to fend for myself and give my life a new meaning. My new identity became molded by the environment, people and circumstances around me at that point. While looking back at that period in my life, I think I can say that I was my own hero, but at that point I didn’t know it. I took care of myself, wept with myself, wandered with myself and was my only friend. Although it was lonely and painful at times, it taught me to never leave my own side. It grew my strength all while exposing me at a very young age to the many colors of life.

#2

Beside me always remaining, holding me, embracing me, but most of all loving me.
You showed me the light, the truth of who I am, you stood by my side, you pushed me to grow, discover and learn.
You understood me yet never tried to change me.
You are my companion.
You are my soul to the body.

*All daily prompts are via The Daily Post, today’s prompt.

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Weekly Photo Challenge: Beginning

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Winter is in full swing here in Chicago. We even had a whopping low of -43F  windchill. Although bitterly cold, there is something so serene about a fresh snowfall. Its like a purifying ritual, where all the ground gets covered in a dusty glittering blanket of purity, marking a beginning or a new way of seeing. Beginnings are an inconstant state; everywhere and anywhere you can see a new beginning budding or taking form. Its what keeps life going, its what keeps us moving and growing. All beginnings are just a gateway to growth, discovery and self-actualization!

Daily Prompt: The Outsiders

Your outside is your inside. What you see outside is what you hold inside. They are reflective of one another, just a like mirror reflects back what the mirror sees. There is no interpreting, dissecting, labeling or trying to make an identity of what you see because the outside is just the outer shell of the inside. It holds a matter of great value. It doesn’t try to shape it; rather it becomes shaped by the inside. The inside is what runs the show, what gives the outside life. Living with an awareness of what is the inside; is knowing that the outside is where the physicality is showcased. How you feel and live with your inside is how you will feel and see your outside. Change the way you look at your inside, change the way you identify with your outside. They are parallel lovers, two of the same kind yet heavily rested into their promising images of what they are. They are nothing but signs of life, breathe and this human earthly existence. To be lived on the outside, yet felt on the inside.

*I have challenged myself to write daily so I can grow, learn and see what words come out from within me. All daily prompts are via The Daily Post, today’s prompt.

How to Overcome a Setback

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You are driving down the Pacific West Highway, feeling the wind in your hair and listening to your favorite tunes all while admiring the beautiful blue ocean. Life is good; you feel content with not a care in the world. Then, all of the sudden you get a flat tire and your perfect scenario turns into a not so perfect hot mess, with you having to figure out how to fix a flat tire.

Scenarios like these are a common occurrence in this beautiful existence called life. The minute we feel like things are going good, all of the sudden the exact opposite happens and we find ourself down in the dumps; caught up in a storm. How do we recover? How do we overcome it? How do we move beyond what we are going through so we can feel better and be ourself again?

 Shift the focus from what has gone wrong to what has gone right. Every situation, opportunity or event comes bearing lessons to learn, something to grow from. When you can stop looking at it as an attack on you; you stop trying to make it your story and give it life by drowning yourself with compulsive thoughts that are far from helping you. Your thoughts create a spiral affect and you begin to get caught up in very powerful emotions that start to eat you from the inside out. In moments like these its so crucial to bring it back to the breathe, focusing on your inhalation and exhalation, but also surrendering to what the moment holds for you. Embrace it. Accept it. Sit with it. Let it be. Don’t shun it. Don’t shun yourself nor beat yourself up. Open up your heart to send love and compassion to those parts of you that strongly feel troubled; they need it now. Only with love and compassion towards yourself can you begin true healing and open up a doorway to understanding what your feelings are trying to tell you. Once you can accept that your feelings always work for you; not against you, you will allow room for new a perspective to enter.Choosing to see something beyond its actuality; is choosing to see it down to its barebones, because the obvious isn’t always subtle or easily identifiable. It may take some time to pin point where the tension lies, but remember to uncover anything you have to be willingly go deeper, go inward.
By taking the initial responsibility to embrace the moment as it is; you can welcome space into your being to move forward from a place of calm and peace. Remember its not about how well you can avoid the storm, but how well you can deal with it.

BY THE WAY

Many times we are too afraid to step out, let the world hear our voice, share what we have to offer all because of this little nonsense voice inside our heads that somehow talks us into believing that we are not good enough, and perhaps that we may never be enough. Stop right here, because you know what, as you are…you are enough. Think about it, you are a walking, talking, breathing miracle…living in paradise, you just have to awaken yourself to it, and be willing to realize it. If you have dreams, passions, goals or aspirations…follow through. It doesn’t matter if you think its not “original” or  its not good enough, because it is. We all have our own contribution and services to give to the world, its coming from you, that in itself is unique.

Anything you have a burning desire to do, do it and don’t go down the what if highway. Its not about comparison or competition that will get you far, but its about being who you are and realizing that you have a gift to offer. You are you, and you cannot be and will not be someone else.

New Year Resolutions?

It’s that time of the year again where everyone is thinking what their New Year Resolutions will be. This year, I am doing something different. For the year 2014, I am choosing to take a conscious approach rather than following a goal-oriented, results based method. Why? Because the ‘typical’ way of making a New Year Resolution is too heavily focused on the end result, rather than the process. In 2014 for me, its all about the process, the journey and most of all the feelings. Therefore, inspired by Danielle LaPorte and her Core Desire Feelings mapping, I have chosen to focus on my core desire feelings for 2014. I chose 5 core desire feelings:

1. Joy 2. Abundance 3. Synergy 4. Inspired 5. Connection

These are the top 5 feelings I am/want to feel in 2014; and the activities I choose, the way I live and how I approach my life is based on these feelings. Its not about changing yourself to become a better version of yourself, its about BEING yourself and focusing on what that means to you. Choose to just BE and forget about becoming. When you focus on your being, you can express it fully as well as choose how you want to feel at all times. So this year, I invite you to ditch making New Year Resolutions and instead focus on your core desire feelings. What makes you come alive, what make you feel connected with your inner self, what is joy for you? Ask yourself a few questions and get mapping on your desired feelings!

I’ve also made a video about this topic, which you can watch here.

Share below what your core desire feelings for 2014 are. Happy Monday!

“It’s not what we have but what we enjoy that constitutes our abundance.” – Epicurus

Attitude of Gratitude

Gratitude plays a very important role in my life. Its the one thing that I begin and end my day with, its the one thing that has changed my life in seconds and its the one that allows me to expand my awareness a little every single day. Harboring the attitude of gratitude is the way I choose to live my life! I recently made a video about the importance of having an attitude of gratitude and share a personal story, you watch it here.

On my YouTube, I am hosting a giveaway to give thanks, and to give something to the seekers who are choosing to better their life and expand their consciousness. You can watch the video and enter the giveaway, here.

UntitledkloThank you for taking the time to read my blog, but most of all seeking out knowledge!

50 Fun Facts About Me

Here it is, 50 fun facts about me. I thought this would be a great get to know me video! Please let me know what you think in the comments, and share something fun about you too 🙂

I just don’t exist, I live and honor my heart“.

xx Kajal

How to get Back on Track

In this video I share a personal story of a “slip up”, what I learned and how to get back on track. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is get started and to begin again when we slip up. It’s all a matter of understanding what message your slip up has for you, as well as how you choose to identify with it.

Please share below, how you’ve overcome your own slip ups. If you found this video helpful, give me a tweet at @DEARKAJAL and/or share it with a friend. I would appreciate that 🙂

Have a great weekend!

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Backstage

What do you do when you feel lost, confused, fed up and overall just really in a fog? That is exactly how I feel right now, and I can’t precisely pinpoint why. It sort of snuck up on me all of the sudden, it didn’t even give me a warning! All my emotions are a jumbled mess in my head. If there was a weather forecast for my head it would say this, “50 degrees with winds at 25 mph and 90% chance of flooding.”

Why do I feel this way? Well, I know that I am in a cycle of self destruction and self loathing right now. As to why I fall into these cycles of cynical disposition with my self, I have no clue. Perhaps a sense of unfulfillment, boredom, lack of joy, lack of self expression, but I think most of all the lack of self worth. I feel like I am doing absolutely nothing with my life, and the reality of the matter is that I am not. I am a lazy bum who loves to sit around all day and just wait…wait for what? I have no clue. Wait for the day that dollar bills pour out of the sky so then I can go on epic adventures around the globe, visiting and escaping from this treacherous world of insanity. But I can’t do that, and I won’t do that. Whats the point in running away, escaping and avoiding? This too is a part of the beautiful journey of life, and it too must be experienced. Because within these sappy, sad experiences lie crucial information about who you are. When you can stop trying to resist this state you can try to understand it and eventually the gift in it. Challenges always come bearing gifts. Every time you have a challenge remember there is also a gift involved, so keep your chin up and let them come. You’ve got this, you can handle anything, because nothing is greater than you. You are indestructible and you cannot be demolished. So stay with it, it too shall pass. Trust. No more comparison to what others are doing, or how amazing and wonderful their accomplishments are. So what if they are doing great things on stage, but do you know what’s going on backstage? You are taking care of the backstage stuff, so the show can shine on the front and center stage. You are taking the time to really understand, embrace and get to know the material so even if the there is glitch during the show.  You will remain calm, but most of all you will be able to stay with your peace and joy. There is no rush or something to have…it happens when it will, your only requirement is that you show up for yourself daily and choose to live this joyride called life. Live it fearlessly, live it with passion and most of all live it with authenticity!

If you can relate, tweet me @dearkajal. Share your input and spread the awareness!